It's not easy disciplining your child. Here is my tips and advice that can help you handle temper tantrums, set healthy limits, manage power struggles, and discipline with love. Keep the peace, and change both of your behavior for the better.
Five Steps to Disciplining Your Kids
Do you need alternatives on how to get through to your children? Are you at the end of your rope? Here are Five Steps on How to Discipline Your Kids—without spanking.
1. Commit Yourself.
It's crucial that your child knows that you're going to do what you say you will. If you explain what a punishment will be, and then don't act on it, you will have less credibility the next time. Make a commitment to your child's discipline, and be consistent in your behavior toward them.
2. Be Realistic in Your Expectations of Your Child.
Don't ask your child to do anything he/she cannot do. Make sure that what you are asking of your child is a behavior within his or her reach — if it's not, your child will get frustrated and be less likely to listen to you in the future.
3. Define Your Child's Bad Behaviors & Consequences.
For us we had a meeting and defined the things that we considered Bad Behavior. Once with had the list of Bad Behaviors, we place a value on each behavior and assigned a consequence of a certain number of lines.
4. Give Your Children Predictable Consequences.
It's important for your child to understand that the same result will come from the same behavior. Make your child feel like he/she has control over their life: If your child behaves in "Way A," they need to be sure that they will always get "Consequence B." If he/she can count on the rules staying the same, they're more likely to abide by them.
5. Use Child-Level Logic.
Explain your values in terms your child can understand. Take the time to explain the reasons behind why you are asking he/she to behave in certain ways — if your child understands the kinds of behavior you'd like them to avoid, they're more likely to apply that reasoning to different situations, instead of learning to stop one behavior at a time.
Bad Behavior Offenses
Level 1 Offense - 300 Lines
- Lying
Level 2 Offense - 75 Lines
- Being Mean to Makenna & Macey
- Disobeying Mom & Dad
- Not Listening
- Interrupting
- Saying “Why”
- Showing Off / Trying to be Cool
- Being Disrespectful
Level 3 Offense - 35 Lines
- Not Keeping Your Room Clean
- Not Following Your Schedule
*If you give us a hard time about your consequence your lines double without warning.
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